
Mostly in movie dialogues, one finds life to be of 4 days long. In reality, life is big & is hard. We need many people at all points of time in life to spend our life with or to provide a little bit of charm in this roz mara ki bhaagti daudti zindagi. There is family, friends, loved ones, colleagues, acquaintances (maybe an office girl/boy with whom u have never talked to but hope to do so, for whom u have lost 4 kgs. in the last month just to have those first words with him/her). Then there comes that one person for whom ur heart says “Yes I can spend my whole life with him/her”….“Haaye agar ye meri life me ho, to life kitni perfect ho” ….Even their imperfections seems to be perfect for us when we meet such a person.
Now, how to make that life perfect or how to make those imperfections seem perfect for u. That is what my first blogpost ‘HUM TUM’ is all about. Hum Tum is about every couple, about the relationship they share with each other, about their luv n trust & ofcourse the complaints they have for one another.
“Moments” beyond these complaints are those everyone aspires for. Moments which can make their relationship a cherished one. Moments with which life becomes worthliving J Give ur loved one these moments of ur luv n care. No matter if u can’t make poems, u r not a poet. No matter if u can’t make cute drawings, u r not a graphic designer. It would be enough if u care for ur loved one bcz care is the sweetest form of luv.
Life is fast and we wish to be the fastest & in this fast-paced life, we often forget to do small small things which may have been cherished by our loved one. It’s the smallest of things which makes a relationship big, like:
J Starting everyday as if it is the first day of ur relationship
J Say “I luv u” everyday, no matter how old u become & what the others would think
J Give ur good luck kiss every morning for the day to pass on smoothly
J At the end of the day, share every joy & relieve ur loved one of every tension what-so-ever.
J Share every joke
J Make ur loved one laugh aloud by intentionally mis-spelling certain words, making stupid faces & doing silly things. Let free that tiny tot within u
J Create new surprises often
J Tease ur loved one sometimes
J Respect each other’s decision
J Understand & fulfill each other’s expectations
J Give their individual space to ur loved one
Then also if some argument occurs, then let ur ego rest in peace & be the first one to say the magical word Sorry bcz this is the relation u want to hold on to & forever make it stay. It’s the person who is important & not the argument.
Just to sum it up in a few words, make ur relationship as good as the hands and the eyes share with each other. It’s like when the hand gets hurt, the eye cries & when the eye cries, the hand wipes its tears.

hey bro,
ReplyDeletenice to see you beating the time in some productive way. it was a refreshing one. very nice. i agree with all your points. even i would like to add a few:
> perhaps one of the best forms of love is to indulge in a "FIGHT". speaking from my personal experiences, i would say that after some point you lose your good words. trust me, a fight always helps building the bonds even stronger than the vander waals forces. (for those who dont know what is van der waals forces, i would put a one-liner for it- its the strongest ever known and identified physical/chemical force on earth.)
>in this fast paced life today it is absolutely necessary to support each other and SYMPATHISE & EMPATHISE with each other. but still there are times when it becomes difficult to sit face to face and talk or enjoy. therefore, i think its very necessary that you try and share whats been ups and downs on a daily basis.
well, these are my personal judgments, and any person affected by them is purely coincidence. (LOL)
well done bro...keep going....wonderful work..
well done... dis is was a good blog and i truely agree with you. life has alot 2 give you.only if ur redy to take it. so keep writing as i would love to get some more gyaan from you so that my life is just perfect and njoyable and refreshing as your thoughts were...
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ReplyDeleteread ur blog rather gyaan u knw wt n am sure most of us wld agree wid wtva u said should happen bt thrs a diff btw wt shd happen n wt actually happens the shorter d diff d more humane 1 becomes hope u mak tht diff by sharing as u did....
keep bloggin am following :)
@confessions of an iconoclast -- thnx bro...i totally agree wid u..fights r vry much necessasy to knw the person in & out...things cant be rosy all the time & the feelings for ur luvd one shd not change in those not-so-rosy times.its like hw wud ur luvd one react whn he/she is angry,at that point of time, whether their ego matters more or YOU!! also with fights,the couple gets to knw each other better...
ReplyDelete@avnish -- thnx bro...
@somya -- thanku mam & abt this blogpost...its just the start,i'll be writing more :)
Really Liked ur first post.....Gr8 start :-)
ReplyDeleteA insightful piece written by a man who is not into any relationship right now. These tips can actually be very good to make our relationship more meaningful, more interesting more lovable.
I liked the line that it is the person that is more important, not the argument (or the situation you can say), because at some point of our life, we do face a situation, when a single argument gets into our head & we sometimes thinks to get over that relationship because of our respective BIG egos. This thing should never happen as that person is any day much more impt. than that situation.
Vaise this piece can be used to endorse you in front of all the single females coz u know so much about relationships and their importance, hehheeee :P :P
@akhil -- thnku mere yaaran... :) :)
ReplyDeleteHmmm... sumbody has really grown up.... but I still find my 20 yr old-best-sweetest-amit in these words..... i just luved it...
ReplyDelete-- :) -- :( -- :@ -- :D -- :P -- (^_^)..
saare emotions bahar aa rhe hain...
@Tamanna - awwwwwwww...(^_^)...i luv u my frnd.dnt wory, i'll never loose that 20yr old charm...mere andar jo chota sa baccha hai(pet me nahi, dil me), use mai kabhi marne nhi duga...i'll alwaz be ur 20yr old ami :) :)
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